Quote:
There was a girl I used to know
She was oh so beautiful
But she’s not here anymore
She had a college degree
Smart as anyone could be
She had so much to live for
But she fell in love
With the wrong kinda man
He abused her love and treated her so bad
There was not enough education in her world
That could save the life of this little girl

How come,
how longIt’s not right,
it’s so wrong
Do we let it just go on
Turn our backs and carry on
Wake up, for it’s too late
Right now, we can’t wait
She won’t have a second try
Open up your hearts
As well as your eyes


She tried to give a cry for help
She even blamed things on herself
But no one came to her aid
Nothing was wrong as far as we could tell
That’s what we’d like to tell ourselves
But no, it wasn’t that way
So she fell in love
With the wrong kinda man
And she paid with her life
For loving that man
So we cannot ignore
We must look for the signs
And maybe next time
We might save somebody’s life

Hook

I on occasion met that guy
He stirred up bad feelings deep inside
Something about him wasn’t right
The way he proves himself a man
By beatin’ his woman with his hands
Oh I wish she’d seen the light
How can someone like that
Call himself a man
In reality he’s far more less than that
And we cannot ignore
Whenever we see the signs’cause any kinda of abuse
God knows isn’t right

This song was written in 1997 by Babyface and Stevie Wonder. What's funny is that in the United States aproximately every nine seconds a woman is being abused by their partner.

Most people think that domestic violence is just a problem with men beating women, but there are also statics that prove that their are women beating men. Most men are to ashamed to admit that it is happening but according to statistics in the year 2000 four hundred and forty four men were assaulted by their partners in just the Detroit area alone. Imagine what it is in a major city like New York.

In fact, .October is Domestic Violence Month and as a survivor I proudly wear a purple ribbon letting people know that I am a survivor. I believe that most people try to shield away from the fact that domestic violence happens but everyone should be aware that their is help for them all year long not just in the month of October.

Just some food for thought I suppose.

~Hopes~

(I am moving an old blog here so bear with me as some of these are dated in writing and in dates. This was originally posted on June 1, 2004.)

Excitement turns to awkwardness leads to shyness

I feel like I am a teenager waiting on my first date to ring the doorbell.

The days are narrowing the nights wanning and the excitement builds.

How is it that you can live with a person for 3 years and then move away from them without realizing how it will feel when you reunite?

I looked at myself today and realized a few things about myself as I stood in front of the mirror. So many changes in the last 5 months. I realized that I have went from a size 20 to a size 14 nearly overnight. I can't believe how much has gone so fast. I cut off my long flaming mane into an inverted bob in anticipation of it slowly disappearing. As I stood there looking at myself I asked myself, "What will RK say when he sees me?".

At first the anticipation was excitement and now I am feeling kind of awkward, especially since I want to continue living the way that I have been living. That includes a very important promise that I made to myself about two months ago. I haven't really thought about it until tonight. I made this promise to prove to myself that I could love someone without physical interaction. So far I have done this really well, but now that the date is set it seems that I can't stop thinking about what it was like before.

All I have been able to think about is if I am going to be able to control those human urges or not. Which of course leads to shyness. I keep remembering our first time together. How weird it felt to be in his arms and how scared I was all at the same time. It is kinda funny now that I think about it. I hadn't been with anyone in a year and a half before that night. Talk about a scared woman I felt like I was a virgin all over again. (OK that was probably too much information but this is my blog ) I actually blush thinking about it right now, how weird is that?

Oh well enough rambling...

Domestic Violence Month

When is discipline abuse?

I know it's a strange question but a friend of mine not only hits his children. He also calls them names "whimp" "whoos" he actually called my daughter a "little bitch".

Of course anyone that knows me knows that I had a few things to tell him over that comment. The name calling had never affected me until it was toward my daughter.

It was then that I realized that I needed to start watching for other signs of abuse. The funny thing is it took me nearly 6 months to see it I wonder why.

Over the years I have learned that when you discipline a child you also need to show the child love and explain to him/her what they do wrong but calling the child names is not very esteem building at all. In fact some would call it detrimental to a child's esteem especially one that is fixing to hit their teen years.

The month of October is domestic violence month.Men, women, and children need to be aware that there is help out there for them. Not only very vocal help but silent help also. There are hotlines across the country that can and will provide you with help.